Monday, February 22, 2010

The Ultimate Spiritual Union of Marriage



WISDOM FOR RELATIONSHIPS

BY MYLES MUNROE

www.bfmmm.com


A believer marrying an unbeliever is what the apostle Paul calls being "unequally yoked" (2 Cor. 6:14). This is a perfectly clear admonition, yet it never ceases to amaze me how many ways otherwise clear-headed believers find to rationalize their decision to marry an unbeliever. Here are a few that I hear often:


"He's not a Christian, but he sure is a nice guy." Even nice guys won't make it to Heaven without Jesus. An unbeliever cannot be of the same spirit with a believer because they are not even on the same road together.

"He's a better gentleman than most Christians I've dated." Polite and respectful behavior is important, but over the long-term will not compensate for the absence of spiritual oneness.

"He's not a Christian because he doesn't want to be a hypocrite." Would he stop going to his bank just because one of the tellers turned out to be a crook? This is merely an excuse to avoid being around believers where he might hear the gospel and get saved.

"He wants our children to go to my church. That's why I like him." Children in a home where one parent is a believer and one is not often grow up spiritually confused: "Why do I have to go to church? Daddy doesn't go." This is a recipe for trouble.

"We have so much in common other than religion." At the most basic and fundamental level--the spiritual level--a believer and an unbeliever have nothing in common. The superficial commonalities are inadequate to sustain a relationship with no common spiritual center.

"I think he's open. Maybe I can witness to him on our dates." Here's the sober, point-blank truth I share with those who rationalize this way: "If he won't change to get you, he won't change to keep you. Once you've lowered your standards to win him, what grounds do you have to try to raise them again afterwards?"

"I told him he had to be a Christian, so he accepted Christ." If he was sincere, fine, but this raises a question of motivation. Did he "accept Christ" because he knew he needed to be saved, or because he wanted you? Did you tell him he had to be a Christian because you were concerned about his spiritual condition or because you were recruiting a spouse? 

Some believers start to panic if they reach a certain age and have not married and see no prospects in sight. Their fear drives them to lower their standards, so that they jump at the first "reasonable" candidate who comes along and shows some interest. A believer and an unbeliever have no basis for spiritual intimacy.

No matter how much we try to rationalize, a marriage between a believer and an unbeliever will always be incomplete because the most essential aspect of a total marriage is lost when there is no spiritual union. A believer and an unbeliever have no basis for spiritual intimacy. In this case, discerning the right life partner should be pretty clear. For a believer, an unbeliever is not the right choice for a mate. It's that simple.



  • DR. MYLES MUNROE is respected internationally as an author, lecturer, teacher, coach, and leadership mentor. He has published numerous best-selling books including: Understanding Your Potential, The Purpose and Power of Love and Marriage, and Rediscovering the Kingdom. He is founder, president, and senior pastor of Bahamas Faith Ministries International, based in Nassau, Bahamas. He and his wife, Ruth, have two children, Charisa and Myles "Chairo" Jr.














The Ultimate Matchmaker



ACCEPTING GOD AS YOUR MATCHMAKER

BY STEPHANIE HERZOG



Come Valentine's Day, so many singles feel incomplete, as if they have failed to fulfill last year's "love resolution" to find someone for next year's "Single's Awareness Day." 

According to 1 Corinthians 7:7, "God gives the gift of the single life to some, the gift of the married life to others." So whether you're single or married, both are gifts from God. Just because you're "still" single, it doesn't mean you're a second-class citizen, or that there's something wrong with you. In fact, the Bible speaks highly and recommends the single life. Your singleness, which may only be for a season, can be a time of devotion to God so you can grow, serve, and please Him without the distractions or cares that come with a love partner. 

Many people will give God other areas of their life, but when it comes to relationships and finding their mate, they seem to say to God, "I'll take it from here," not realizing that God would have totally helped them and saved them so much time, regret, and heartache. So often we try and pick someone we think we would like, and then hope and pray that God blesses it anyway. Don't end up in a relationship that is constantly needing counseling, always on the verge of destruction, wishing there was a way out. Don't choose a path of regret. If you let God choose for you, He will always present to you His best choice.

The most important decision one makes in life---besides making Jesus their Lord and Savior---is whom they will marry. But many Christians seem to take this lightly. As the song goes, there are many "looking for love in all the wrong places. Looking for love in too many faces, searching their eyes." Even in churches, there are those who've dated seemingly everyone available in their church and still haven't found the right person. They are forever seeking for love or "The One," but never finding. Then as they see their time clock ticking, desperation takes hold, causing them to settle. Because surely, having someone is better than being alone, right? Wrong. Beloved, that is not the way to find the right person to marry.God has a better plan. 

When you follow the Designer's plan, everything works out better. How would you like the Designer of the universe who made everything perfect with such limitless genius be your official Matchmaker? Wouldn't the Creator of the Universe know better than you, out of the billions of people in the world, who your best match would be? He's the One who made you! God has total access to every human being on the earth more than any matchmaking website or service...which is often a futile attempt of trying to do a better job than trusting God with our love lives. When you release the choice to God and follow His ways, God will set you up to receive your perfect match "exceeding abundantly above what you can ask for or think of." 

So how does one begin on the journey to let go and let God be their Matchmaker? What exactly are you supposed to do? Is dating okay, should one just wait and pray, or should we just take it into our own hands and make it happen? Find out as your life gets totally transformed and blessed as you read my book, and discover how you, too, can let God be your "Matchmaker." 




  • Stephanie Herzog is a celebrated author of the book God is Your Matchmaker, a dynamic speaker, and co-host of "The Glory Zone". She has ministered around the world sharing God's glory in fresh and exciting ways. Stephanie and her husband, David, have ministered in crusades, conferences, revivals and outreaches all over the world. They have lived 12 years overseas ministering to the nations of the world, as well as led over 12 yearly tours/outreaches to Israel.






Tuesday, February 2, 2010

Experiencing Our Abba's Presence


Abba Concious

By Dudley Hall

www.sclm.org



During his last discourse with his disciples, Jesus promised them that he would not leave them as orphans, but would send the Helper to make real to them the same relationship he had with the Father (John 14:18-20). They would know (consciously) that Jesus is in the Father, they were in Jesus, and Jesus was in them. This was an amazing promise. It was as radical a thought as had ever been in their minds. Was Jesus really saying that they could have the same sense of intimacy with the Father as Jesus had? Was he sharing the fellowship enjoyed by the Godhead? 

It happened at the annual celebration of the Feast of Pentecost. Those gathered began to see some strange phenomena. The signs were physical but pointed to a greater reality. They heard the sound of a mighty wind. Wind had often been used to describe the movement of the Spirit of God. Jesus himself had used wind as a metaphor to describe the essential nature of the kingdom of God (John 3:1-8). This wind was signaling the restoration of mankind to the reality of the spirit world. Adam and Eve had enjoyed walking with God who is Spirit. They had lost that clear sense of the world beyond the natural. Spiritual reality had become cloudy and secondary. Only sporadically had mankind been able to access this realm. There was much speculation and confusion about how the physical and spiritual realms related. From this day onward, they would be led by the Spirit and not controlled by the circumstances of the physical world. 

Tongues of fire sat upon each believer. Fire has been a symbol of God’s presence for centuries. Remember when God gave Moses the Law? The mountains were on fire. Before that when God made a covenant with Abraham, his presence was a smoking fire pot (Genesis 15:12-21). Now the presence of God was on each believer and not just the Jewish nation. Each believer in Christ would be a temple of the Spirit and could worship anywhere, anytime. 

They were speaking in languages they didn’t know. Everyone was hearing the proclamation of the gospel in his or her own language. This was a reversal of the language confusion that God had caused when people tried to build a tower to heaven for the sake of their own name: the tower of Babel. Now there would be restored communication. Believers could know in the spirit as well as in the natural. 

Then another radical thing happened. Peter illustrated how the Old Testament should be interpreted. Joel, who was one of the revered Old Testament prophets, had spoken of the day when God would intervene and establish a new order. He had used prophetic language depicting the event in cosmic drama;

And it shall come to pass afterward, that I will pour out my Spirit on all flesh; your sons and your daughters shall prophesy, your old men shall dream dreams, and your young men shall see visions; Even on the male and female servants in those days I will pour out my Spirit. And I will show wonders in the heavens and on the earth, blood and fire and columns of smoke. The sun shall be turned to darkness, and the moon to blood, before the great and awesome day of the Lord comes. And it shall come to pass that everyone who calls on the name of the Lord shall be saved… Joel 2:28-32 (ESV)

Before this New Testament interpretation, most of the Jews had looked for physical and natural fulfillment of this prophecy. Now Peter was introducing what the new creation would look like. The spiritual meaning of everything would take precedent over the natural. The Old Testament writers had been writing about spiritual reality all along. Now the day had arrived. The Spirit had come to make the relationship with the Father a conscious reality. The “seeing” that Adam had lost in the Garden was being restored.

Later the apostle Paul spoke of this new creation dynamic as he explained to the church at Rome what the kingdom of God was all about;

For all who are led by the Spirit of God are sons of God. For you did not receive the spirit of slavery to fall back into fear, but you have received the Spirit of adoption as sons, by whom we cry ‘Abba! Father! The Spirit himself bears witness with our spirit that we are children of God, and if children, then heirs—heirs of God and fellow heirs with Christ, provided we suffer with him in order that we may also be glorified with him Roman 8:14-17(ESV)

I believe there are at least five aspects of this “Abba-consciousness.” We can see these first in the Garden of Eden and then in Jesus who is the last Adam.

First, there is the consciousness of presence. Adam had enjoyed the unhindered presence of God before sin intruded. Since that time mankind has been trying to find a way back to the presence of God. The whole Old Testament story is about Israel being the distinct people whose God was present with them. He lived in a tent like they did. Then they built a temple where he met with them in the Holiest place. The whole sacrificial system was about bridging the gap between God and mankind. For centuries Jews dreamed of a day when they could again approach God and be in his presence. The day came! 

Some are still convinced that it is a future dream. They visualize heaven as the only place where mankind can live in the presence of God, but according to the New Testament, heaven starts the day one places his or her trust in Jesus as the only mediator between God and man. One cannot come to the Father unless introduced by the Son. It is popular today for people to profess they have a relationship with God, but not Jesus. They think his claims of being the only way are ridiculous. They are sure they have bridged the gap by being sincere and authentic. There are many gods out there which are products of man’s projections, but the God who created everything and who will consummate everything is a Father and can be known only through the Son who became the ultimate sacrifice for sin. 

I was saddened recently when a prominent sports figure in this country declared that he was embracing Torah because he believed you had to get to know the Father before you can know the Son. He had it backwards. You can’t know the Father except through the Son. And the Spirit has come to dwell in us to make that relationship conscious. 

The second aspect of the Abba-conscious life is pleasure. God actually has pleasure in his sons. Adam and Eve enjoyed the presence and pleasure of the Father. He obviously enjoyed them. God tried to get Israel to believe that he delighted in them. They just couldn’t comprehend it. They continued to drift off to other gods that promised them pleasure. They were afraid of the God who actually enjoyed them. It is difficult to believe that God enjoys us. When I get up in the morning and look into the mirror, I can’t imagine anyone delighting in me. When I think of all the selfish things I have done, I can only imagine others being repulsed. To believe that the Father actually looks forward to being with me is a stretch. I have been programmed by the orphan’s perspective. I can only hope God will tolerate me. If I could actually believe God the Father was anxiously waiting for me to wake up and visit with him, I wonder would that make me eager to get up? 

Some of my old friends (guys who played football together in college) got together a few years back in a hunting cabin. We took all the clothing and gear for a few days of man-fun, but we got to talking about each other’s lives. We bragged on and prayed for our kids. The hours flew by. We stayed up much too late delighting in each other. We were up early, putting on heavy warm clothes, but got to visiting again around the breakfast table. The sun came up. When we noticed it was almost noon. We talked over each other, eager to get our stories in the mix. We laughed and cried. We rehearsed how great we were back when. When the hour to depart arrived, we were all sad, but greatly blessed by a few hours of delight in each other. 

How much more does the Father delight in us? Actually, he delights in us exactly the same as he delights in the Son. That is what it means to be a “son of God.” Joint-heirs with Christ means we get what he inherited. It can’t mean anything less. Think of how much the Father has eternally delighted in the Son. He created mankind so that someone could enjoy the Son as much as the Father did. There is nothing that delights the Father as much as the Son. I think we have some mind changing to do. 

The third aspect of this consciousness is purpose. Adam knew his purpose. Jesus knew his purpose. Israel misunderstood their purpose. We can know ours. Adam was to enjoy the Father and partner with him in developing creation. In short, he was to glorify God—make his nature known in the earth. Israel was to be a son of God glorifying him on earth by representing him as a forgiving Father. Jesus revealed his purpose in his “high-priestly prayer:”

I glorified you on earth, having accomplished the work that you gave me to do…I have manifested your name to the people whom you gave me out of the world. John 17:4,6a (ESV)

Could that be our purpose also? Well, of course. Only an orphan could possibly conceive of life apart from partnering with the Father. If we aren’t living to glorify him, it doesn’t really matter what we do vocationally. In fact, if we are living to glorify him it really doesn’t matter very much what we do. Of course, we will gravitate to our skills and gifts, but the real issue is making his name known to those around us and developing the plot in the garden we were given. 

In an atmosphere of meaninglessness, purpose is difficult to find. When people are taught that they are products of random chance and that all truth is relative to the individual, there is little to give clues about purpose. But when we believe we are sons of God destined to make his name known in the earth, we can rise to the occasion and make a difference during our time here. There are mysteries to be solved and treasures to be discovered in this creation. The sons of God will enjoy working with the Father in fulfilling his purpose for creation no matter where they are assigned.

The fourth aspect of Abba-consciousness is provision. This is the area that trips us so often. As orphans we tend to worry about our needs being met. Adam had plenty of food on every tree in the garden. Israel had received manna from heaven as a display of the Father’s intention to provide for them. Jesus was confident that when he needed something to carry out his assignment, it would be there. There was a lunch when he needed to feed 5000 families. There was a donkey when he needed to make his triumphal entry. There was a tomb when he needed to wait for the resurrection. Today there is a community of faith that will finish the job he began. He has never worried about provision. 

One reason we have for worry is the disconnect between our assignment and our provision. We often think of provision in terms of survival or significance. When we haven’t identified our assignment clearly, provision becomes the goal rather than the means. We find ourselves “needing” things to affirm our success. We gather our symbols of success and display them, hoping for some sense of significance. We find ourselves hording things for fear that the supply will not always be there. 

It seems that our greatest worries come from the perceived need of resources when we have not connected them with our assignment. When I disconnect my need for clothes, food, travel, comfort, and convenience from my calling, I have trouble believing God is interested. Oh sure! He would provide a boat for me if I were in the tropics and needing to get to an unreached tribe, but is he interested in my needs here in a country with more wealth than any place on earth? Is he embarrassed that I would even expect him to provide for me when there are so many in the world who don’t have what I already have? But if I can believe that God’s sovereign hand has placed me in this environment to make his name known, maybe I can trust him to grant me the resources to get that done. 

He has not been miserly in his provision. He has given us the same Spirit that raised Jesus from the dead. Maybe he can give new life to the hopeless: Raise a marriage, or a church, or a relationship. If he can defeat death maybe he can defeat bitterness and addiction. When we are conscious of his abundant provision, we are liberated from worry and fear. When we are aware of it, we can work with confidence. 

The fifth aspect of the Abba-conscious life is protection. Adam had the angels surrounding the Garden of Eden. Israel had God’s covenant that he would fight their enemies. Jesus could call 10,000 angels at any time. We are in the Father’s hand and no one can snatch us from it.

There were several times in Jesus’ earthly life that people tried to kill him. He was able to simply walk away. In his words, “My time has not come.” The Father was in charge of the events of his life. Regardless of how powerful the Roman government was or how bitter the Jewish leaders had become, no one could touch him until his time. Likewise, we are indispensable until our assignment is done. We are not walking the tight rope of survival wondering if accidents or terrorists are going to prevail. We are in the hands of a Father. No, THE Father. Who is bigger or stronger? We are safe. When he determines our assignment is done, he will decide how we transition from this world. His promise is sure. He has prepared a place in the Father for us and we can enjoy it now. When death comes we will still enjoy the consciousness of the Father that we are getting accustomed to now. 

By his death and resurrection Jesus made it possible for us to be sons of God. It is a legal fact based on the justice of God. But there is more. We are not only sons of God legally. We have been given the Spirit of adoption that makes us conscious of the relationship. Eternal life is visceral as well as legal. At a level deeper than emotion and higher than intellect, we know we are sons of God.











'I am what I am' says the Lord


The God of the Mountains and Valleys

By Francis Frangipane 



The battles we face are often intense times of weakness, distress, and confusion. If the events of our lives were charted, these would be the lowest points. Yet God is no less with us during difficulties than at other times. In fact, these valleys are often as much the plan of God as our mountaintop experiences.

There is a story in the Bible that speaks plainly to this truth. Israel had recently defeated the Arameans in a mountain battle. In 1 Kings 20, we read:

Then the prophet came near to the king of Israel and said to him, "Go, strengthen yourself and observe and see what you have to do; for at the turn of the year the king of Aram will come up against you." Now the servants of the king of Aram said to him, "Their gods are gods of the mountains, therefore they were stronger than we; but rather let us fight against them in the plain, and surely we will be stronger than they." --1 Kings 20:22-23

The enemy said that the God of Israel was a god of the mountains, but if they fought the Jews in the valleys they would defeat them. We read in verse 28:

Then a man of God came near and spoke to the king of Israel and said, "Thus says the Lord, 'Because the Arameans have said, "The Lord is a god of the mountains, but He is not a god of the valleys," therefore I will give all this great multitude into your hand, and you shall know that I am the Lord.'" --1 Kings 20:28


No matter what the enemy tries to tell you, Christ is God of the mountains and God of the valleys. He has not stopped being God because you happen to be in a valley. He is the God of glory as seen in His power and miracles. In the valleys He reveals Himself as faithful, loyally committed to us in difficulties and distresses. In and through all things He is our God.

When we are on the "mountaintops" of our Christian experience, we can see our future clearly. We have perspective and confidence. When we are in one of life's valleys, however, our vision is limited and our future seems hidden. Yet valleys are also the most fertile places on earth.

Valleys produce fruitfulness. You can expect there to be a harvest of virtue when God dwells with you in the valleys.



The Highway to Zion

How blessed is the man whose strength is in You, In whose heart are the highways to Zion! Passing through the valley of Baca, they make it a spring. --Psalm 84:5-6


Baca means "weeping." Each of us has times of weeping when our hearts and hopes seem crushed. Because God has placed in our hearts "highways to Zion," however, we pass through valleys; we do not live in them.

"Passing through the valley of Baca…" Once we are on the other side of weeping, our Redeemer makes our valley experience into "a spring." The very things that overwhelmed us will, in time, refresh us with new life. Whether we are experiencing the height of success and power or are in a valley of weakness and despair, the Lord is our God continually!

Has the enemy isolated you, causing you to doubt God's love? Do not forget, while we were yet sinners, Christ died for us. Even the hairs on your head are numbered. He cares. It is His love for us that redeems our hardships and not only brings good out of what was meant for evil, but also trains us to deliver others.

How did Jesus prepare to do wonderful works? Part of His training involved suffering. Christ was a man of sorrows. He was One who was acquainted with grief. Yet His suffering was the Father's means of acquainting Him with the actual feelings of mankind's need and pain. Because He suffered what we suffer, He is able to serve as a faithful high priest. If we yield to God's plan for Christ to be formed in us, God will take our sorrows to enlarge our hearts. Once we have been acquainted with grief, we then can be anointed with compassion to deliver others.


Joseph's Trials

Consider Joseph. He was the second youngest of Jacob's sons and his father's favorite. His walk with God began with dreams and visions. Joseph's life is a pattern for many who have had a genuine call from God. Our walk with God may also have begun with a "travel brochure" of dreams and visions where God gives us a picture of His destination for us. Yet we fail to be able to see how His promises will come to pass in our lives.Joseph was betrayed by his brothers and delivered up by them to die. He was unjustly accused when Potiphar's wife tried to seduce him. He was imprisoned and forgotten by all except God who patiently watched and measured Joseph's reaction to difficulty.

Rich or poor, blessed or smitten, Joseph served God. He was being tested, but he continued to pass his tests. Joseph was on trial before men, but he was found innocent before God.

Finally, at the right moment, the Lord suddenly connected all the loose ends of Joseph's life. Everything that Joseph went through would have seemed cruel and unfair except that the Lord was shaping a man for His purpose. God uses everything we go through for future purposes that He alone sees. We do not see His ultimate plan while we are in the valley. We must remember the vision, keeping faith in what God has promised.

Just as He allowed Joseph to go through many trials, so He allows us to go through great conflicts as well. For He knows that our lives-what we have become through His grace-will help others find the shelter of the Most High God in their lives.

"Joseph named the firstborn Manasseh, 'For,' he said, 'God has made me forget all my trouble and all my father's household'" (Gen. 41:51). God caused Joseph to forget the difficulty and pain of his life. There is something wonderful about the Lord's capacity to cause all things to work for good. With Jesus in our lives, a time ultimately comes when God causes us to forget all the troubles of the past.

"He named the second Ephraim, 'For,' he said, 'God has made me fruitful in the land of my affliction'" (Gen. 41:52). God made him fruitful in the very things that afflicted him. In the land of your affliction, in your battle, is the place where God will make you fruitful.

Consider even now, the area of greatest affliction in your life. In that area God will make you fruitful in such a way that your heart will be fully satisfied and God's heart fully glorified. Ultimately, the Lord will touch many others with the substance of what you have gained. In a world that is superficial, Christ will produce something within you that is deep and living.

God has not promised to keep us from valleys and sufferings, but He has promised to make us fruitful in them. Without a doubt we each will pass through valleys before we reach our final goal in God. As we remain faithful to Him in trials, the character and nature of Christ Jesus will emerge in our spirits; and Christ will be revealed to those around us. He intends to make your life a key that unlocks God's shelter for others.

Lord, You are God of the mountains and the valleys. I know that Your faithfulness is my shield and my bulwark.

Thank You for redeeming the conflicts of my life. I praise You for healing me and causing me to forget all the trauma of my past. Now Lord, help me to remember what I have learned. Cause me to remember that the crises in my life always precede the enrichment of my life. Help me to recognize that the place of my fruitfulness is in the land of my affliction. In Jesus's name. Amen.